wheel builds: standardizations for 25.02

[jameslamb]

Description

As more C++ wheels PRs (e.g. for #33) have gone through review, we've picked up a list of new preferred practices for RAPIDS wheels builds in CI. This tracks the work of going back through RAPIDS repos and applying all those suggestions.

• removing unnecessary -DDETECT_CONDA_ENV in CMake flags for wheel builds (introduce libraft wheels raft#2531 (comment))
• checking the completeness of update-version.sh (introduce libraft wheels raft#2531 (comment))
• having nightly wheel-build-* jobs rely on other wheel-build-* jobs, not wheel-publish-* (introduce libraft wheels raft#2531 (comment))
  • e.g., wheel-build-libcudf builds a libcudf wheel and pushes it to S3... wheel-publish-libcudf pushes that to the nightly pip index ... wheel-build-pylibcudf just downloads from S3, so can start as soon as wheel-build-libcudf is complete
• not rebuilding C++ wheels for every Python version (avoid unnecessary wheel builds ucxx#344)
• using the latest version of rapids-dependency-file-generator in pre-commit hooks

Benefits of this work

• faster CI (via more parallelism)
• lower CI resource usage (via running fewer jobs)
• better reliability of nightly CI jobs (via running fewer jobs)

Acceptance Criteria

• for every RAPIDS repo producing wheels, all of those practices mentioned in the description are applied

Approach

Batch these changes into 1 PR per repo.

update-version.sh can be tested like this:

./ci/release/update-verison.sh '25.04.00'
git grep -E '25\.2'
git grep -E '25\.02'
git grep -E '24\.12'

These can be done in any order.

Updates

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1. cucim (no updates necessary ... not using rapids-cmake, no C++ wheels, update-version.sh is fine)
2. cudf (increase parallelism in nightly builds cudf#17792)
3. cugraph (no changes required - closed enforce cmake-format and cmake-lint cugraph#4889 when CMake formatting was dropped from scope here)
4. cugraph-gnn (enforce cmake-format and cmake-lint, other small packaging changes cugraph-gnn#111)
5. cuml (introduce libcuml wheels cuml#6199)
6. cuopt (https://github.com/rapidsai/cuopt/pull/2198)
7. cuspatial (improve parallelism of nightly wheel builds cuspatial#1516)
8. cuvs (update pip devcontainers to UCX 1.18, small update-version.sh fixes cuvs#604)
9. dask-cuda (no changes required)
10. nx-cugraph (no changes required)
11. nx-cugraph (update pip devcontainers to UCX 1.18, other small packaging changes nx-cugraph#65)
12. pynvjitlink (no changes required)
13. raft (Update pip devcontainers to UCX 1.18 raft#2550)
14. rmm (no changes required)
15. ucx-py (ensure update-version.sh updates pyproject.toml ucx-py#1106)
16. ucxx (no changes required - closed enforce cmake-format and cmake-lint, other small packaging changes ucxx#353 when CMake formatting was dropped from scope here)

[jameslamb]

enforcing rapids-cmake style preferences via cmake-format (rapidsai/raft#2531 (comment))

Based on some review conversations (rapidsai/cugraph#4889 (comment)), I'm cutting the CMake-formatting part out of this issue.

Opened a separate discussion for that: rapidsai/pre-commit-hooks#62